Hi everyone,
My name is Anjela and I believe I have the answer you've all been looking for to explain why sex seems to vanish after the honeymoon period in a realtionship. I want to hear your comments.... I know you will like what I have to say here... it certainly should give you a content feeling to at least know what happens and why... then you can go from there to correct it.... Ok? So please tell me what you think, I want to hear it.
The best place to start is to recognize briefly that women and men truly are different in their sexuality. They are different in many ways ... but this is going to be about sex. So lets start there. The information regarding gender differences is the typical not absolute of all men and women. We all realize their are always exceptions but typically these are the facts concerning the gender difference. One more note... I truly and wholeheartedly believe the differences in men and women should be taught to us as children in school. I was almost 30, been through a failed marriage and had a child before I figured out that men think and process information differently than I did. I remember the light bulb coming on vividly. I was angry that I had not been taught that. Was mystified that noone ever told me. I know it wouuld have made a huge difference having the understanding years before. Do you agree?
Men: Men are physical creatures in regard to sex and the sex act.
Women: Were created as emotional and physical creatures.
That having been said... Let me show you what typically happens in every relationship. Guys have you ever said to yourself or your friends... Soon as we got married the sex went downhill from there? Women... have you noticed you are not horny like you once was? I've heard it time and time again while talking to people. I've seen it so much that I really began to look at it and researched it.... What I truly believe has happened is not a fault finding issue... it happens silently , it happens just as you've FINALLY, gotten what you desire. Your in love sex is great, you committ to each other and you feel secure . See if this scenario fits into your life... and please comment ... I want feedback... here we go.
Men and women meet... in the beginning of a new relationship its exciting, its fresh, your discovering each other there is passion, romance and finally love. Its a wonderous time. So you commit to each other... your happy, content, sex is frequent and naughty and fun and mmmm so good. Men and Women are freely expressing there desires and needs showing you how much your loved. Ahhh you have arrived ... you both begin to settle into your new life comfortable secure. This is as it should be, you love him, she loves you!! But all of a sudden theres a change. Men notice it first cuz theres less and less sex going on. And when it does happen ... ummm somethings we used to like to do are not so appealing anymore. Women recognize that they are not as horny lately... maybe even begin to argue about it with each other. She has no idea whats happening just that things have certainly changed. Now what happens is she begins to worry something is wrong with her, shes not wanting to please him hes not at all happy... maybe hes having an affair or she is... the webs of doubt and insecurities have begun to weave into countless areas of you and your lifes... it has begun.. the wedge is between you driving you further and further apart. Sometimes it can even end what God has put together.
What has happened is really quite simple and if we had been taught the differences in our genders ... if we were aware of the fuindamentals , we could have been prepared and watched for the silent killer and stopped it ... Men ... you became comfortable and secure in your relationships as you should have and as your wife had too. But because you are naturally physical sexual creatures ... you stopped loving the whole women in the bedroom. Again, no bllame ... How can we know this if we are not taught how we differ. Woman are emotional and physical lovers. You want to have sex all the time and keep it as it was in the early stages you must love the whole woman... not just the physical part.
Now stay with me... if your not convinced let me show you more. Women need to know and feel you desire her, want her , need her. This is one of the greatest turn ons there is to a woman. In the begininng you men had no problem expressing these emotions... they were vital in your primal instinct to conquer her. It came so easy .... Women react oh so nicely when the emotional needs of her being are met in the bedroom. You must love the whole woman if you expect her appetite to keep up with yours .. to change with yours .. to evolve with yours... she must be loved completely so that she is able to be the sexual creature she is in herself too. Could this be the answer? Does this make absolute sense to you? I know it does ofcourse it does. It happens when we have finally gotten happy and content when we desrve to spend are days just loving each other. She had no idea, nor could you. Amazingly evil the silent killer.
Now then lets talk about what and how we accomplisgh loving the whole women... what do I mean when I say this... well let me say this first... You must express emotion...
Desire is EMOTION, Need is EMOTION, Love is EMOTION...
If you can bring these to the bedroom there is nothing she won't do to please you. When you love the whole woman her purpose in life will be to make you happy. That truly is what makes her happy ...pleasing you.
I'm talking about urgent need, desire and want.. She is the woman you need and need her now. There is no other that would satisfy... its not her sex act you need and desire its her. Now don't panic I have an example for you that clearly will show you men what she wants and women... boy are you going to thank me for this later ...mmmmm mmm. I'm gonna warn you if you can't handle the F word ... you will not like this particular story I am going to send you to read... but if you want another recommendation using not so explicit language I will be happy to provide that to you,, Email me. Ok heres where I want you to go... this is my favorite place to go get fired up. Its a blog page written by an Englishman named Roger. He writes Erotica for women. And let me just say... Ummm this man knows how to love the whole women in the bedroom and then some. The story I want you to read is called f**king you against the wall. Its 2 parts and you will find the 2nd on the left side in the archives. Men go read this story, you surely will be aroused reading it so make sure you have some alone play time ... and women ...OMG.... get ready to kiss my toes. WOOOHOO> Read it ladies and make sure your able to play as well. Men read the comments from the women at the end of the stories.. Surely you will see that mmmmmm... bring emotion to the bedroom and love the whole woman. She will make and meet all the desires of your heart and then some.
Have fun and please comment honestly and openly to me here. Tell Roger Niagra sent me... he'll know who that is. HEHE
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